Category Archives: Not So Private Thoughts

Personal topics, some dear to my heart, some random and all worth a read.

General Ramblings, Not So Private Thoughts, Parenting, Social Commentary

The case against having children

Parenting and kids are increasingly portrayed by society as liabilities rather than assets. A change in the way our nation views family life is reflected in the emerging narrative that has been highlighted in recent articles. For example, the Surgeon General’s caution that parenting is bad for mental health implies that being a parent is a solitary and possibly dangerous task. This perspective reduces having children to a simple cause of stress and loneliness, ignoring the deep joy and fulfillment they bring into our lives.

Furthermore, it’s becoming increasingly common to have conversations about being “child-free” or unsure about having children. The papers note that a growing number of young Americans are debating whether to have parents due to concerns about money and the high standards set for modern parents. Compared to previous generations, when having children was viewed as a normal and fulfilling aspect of life, this is a significant shift.

American families’ future. Are we allowing the inherent worth of parenthood to be eclipsed by societal demands and growing costs? It’s imperative for parents to counter this unfavorable narrative. Children are a source of love, hope, and continuity—not problems. Parenting presents certain challenges, but the benefits of raising the next generation significantly exceed them.

References:
Parenting Is Hazardous to Your Health, the Surgeon General Warns – The nation’s doctor says parents are lonely. Maybe it’s really the powerlessness of parenthood that’s gotten us down.
https://www.wsj.com/tech/surgeon-general-warning-parenting-mental-health-53f75c63

How Americans Are Thinking About Children – From the ‘child-free’ to the ‘maybe someday’ parents.
https://www.wsj.com/articles/how-americans-are-thinking-about-children-fa8fff60?mod=opinion_feat4_letterstoeditors_pos3

Why Americans Aren’t Having Babies – The costs and rising expectations of parenthood are making young people think hard about having any children at all.
https://www.wsj.com/lifestyle/relationships/americans-babies-childless-birthrate-daf438f9?mod=article_inline

By Shaun Sima
https://chef-pocket.com/aboutme

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Faith - huh?, General Ramblings, Not So Private Thoughts, Uncategorized

The Power of Speaking to Your Mountains!

As we navigate life’s journey, we MUST cling to the promises of success, joy, and triumph found in God’s Word. Proverbs 3:5-6 urges, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your understanding. In all your ways, acknowledge him, and he will direct your paths.”

God’s word is a source of life, healing, and redemption. Psalm 107:20 says, “He sent out his word and healed them.” When God spoke, healing and rescue followed. John 14:12 reminds us that: “whoever believes in me will do the works I have been doing, and they will do EVEN GREATER things.”. It’s not enough to think good thoughts; it’s not enough to pray. We have to speak to our mountains. Speak! Mark 11:23 says: Whoever will say to this mountain be removed, and does not doubt, he will have whatever he says”. Don’t speak defeat, speak success.

Ephesians 3:20 promises that God will do exceedingly, abundantly above all we ask. ASK! His blessings will chase us down and overtake us when we ask and profess it. God’s favor surrounds us BUT “We will eat the fruit of our words”, Proverbs 18:21. It’s not enough to believe. We must talk confidently and remind God to fulfill every promise He has spoken over our lives so we experience the abundant success, overflowing joy, and unwavering victory that God has prepared for us.

Even in the face of challenges, the Bible provides solace and reassurance. In John 16:33, Jesus affirms, “I have said these things to you, that in me you may have peace. In the world, you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world.” While struggles may arise, the promise of victory in Christ surpasses any obstacle we encounter.

As we navigate life’s challenges, let’s hold fast to God’s promises of success, joy, and victory. Our faith is not in our circumstances but in the unchanging Word of God. Proverbs 3:5-6 encourages us, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and do not lean on your understanding. In all your ways, acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.”

God wants us to succeed in every area of our lives. In Joshua 1:8, we’re reminded, “For then you will make your way prosperous, and then you will have good success.”

We are not created for mediocrity; we are created to be prosperous, to have success, joy, and health! Jeremiah 29:11, “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.”

“The tongue is a tree of life, but a perverse tongue crushes the spirit.” Proverbs 15:4.

What does all this mean to me? Simple! I needed to read them. I needed to be reminded of the power of the tongue and the promises made to me. I am encouraged to speak my success, to tell my mountains of negativity, doubt, and defeat to be removed. “Nothing will be impossible for you.'”, Matthew 17:20.

By Shaun Sima
https://chef-pocket.com/aboutme

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General Ramblings, Not So Private Thoughts, Uncategorized

Discover the Hidden Power within You: Could This Be Your Most Remarkable Year Yet?

Amidst the noise of politics, worldly affairs, and the uncertainties of the upcoming year, remember the fundamental truth that guides us – we’ve already triumphed, for God is with us. Stay grounded, radiate positivity, and be a source of light to those around you. Resist the temptation to repay negativity with more of the same. Instead, be a beacon of cheerfulness, helpfulness, and love, even in the face of adversity. Present a different path, an alternative to the negativity that often surrounds us.

As we approach January, it might seem like a continuation of past challenges or hard to envision change. But what if this year held the promise of being your best ever?

Regardless of your current circumstances or past experiences, the new year is brimming with potential. Embrace the optimism, relish the anticipation, and seize the moment. It’s a clean slate, a fresh beginning, offering every reason to feel positive. Don’t let skepticism or past setbacks hinder the potential for something extraordinary. This upcoming year could indeed be something truly special.

By Shaun Sima
https://chef-pocket.com/aboutme

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Not So Private Thoughts, Uncategorized

Unmasking the Devious Schemers

Ah, my dear readers, allow me to regale you with a tale of the most curious and vexing predicament that has befallen me. It is a matter of great import, a veritable opera of deceit and manipulation, where the protagonists are none other than those who purport to be virtuous yet are the very architects of falsehood and treachery.

In the grand tapestry of life, we all encounter individuals who, like chameleons, can change their colors to suit their nefarious purposes. Alas, I have had the misfortune of crossing paths with such a cunning soul, who, in their pursuit of self-aggrandizement, have resorted to the most egregious of tactics.

Picture, if you will, a scene where mendacity reigns supreme. Falsehoods, like weeds in a neglected garden, have been sown with reckless abandon. And what is their nefarious intent, you ask? To besmirch my name and tarnish the bonds that bind me to my beloved sons.

Ah, but fear not, dear readers, for I am not one to let the machinations of deceitful interlopers mar the sanctity of the familial ties that have endured through the annals of time. It is said that the truth shall set you free, and in this grand melodrama, the truth is my shield and my sword.

While these Machiavellian manipulators revel in their deception, I shall stand firm, unwavering in my commitment to the veracity of my character and the integrity of my family. For, in the end, it is they who must reckon with the consequences of their duplicity, and I, in my steadfast resolve, shall be the beacon of moral rectitude.

So, my dear readers, let us raise our metaphorical quills and pen a paean to the indomitable spirit that refuses to be cowed by the perfidy of those who would seek to sow discord. Let us be the keepers of our own narratives, the composers of our own destinies, and the guardians of the truth.

In this theatre of life, where falsehood and deceit may lurk in the shadows, let us be the stars of our own highbrow comedy, for we shall not let the agents of deception steal the spotlight. And as the curtain falls on this tale of intrigue and deception, may it be known that truth and virtue shall always prevail in the end.

By Shaun Sima
https://chef-pocket.com/aboutme

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General Ramblings, Not So Private Thoughts, Parenting, Uncategorized

The Hidden Control You Didn’t Know You Had

The course could have effortlessly veered in a different direction, holding the potential for either considerably more favorable or significantly more adverse outcomes. It is a common temptation to presume that destiny preordains these results, though such a belief is unfounded.

Does the responsibility fall upon your shoulders, or was it the whimsical hand of fortune (whether beneficent or malevolent)?

Should our historical account be burdened with persistent second-guessing, self-reproach, or the apportionment of blame, it has the potential to endure. Alternatively, it is plausible that we may have exaggerated our own talents, diligence, and acumen, while serendipity, in reality, played a substantial role.

Through the recalibration of our retrospective narrative, we lay the groundwork for the emergence of an alternative future.

My children are wholeheartedly embracing their journey toward human development, while we, as responsible adults, are wholeheartedly embracing our journey towards maturity.

We achieve this not through self-criticism or censure of our children but by fostering unwavering faith in our own and our children’s capacity to evolve and flourish.

We wield a more substantial degree of control over this narrative than we acknowledge.

By Shaun Sima
https://chef-pocket.com/aboutme

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Not So Private Thoughts

Unbreakable Bonds: How a 23-Year, and Counting, Friendship Defied Time, Distance, and Charging Rhino

Life’s like a crazy roller coaster, but friendships like this are the sturdy seatbelts keeping you strapped in even during the wildest loops. They’re like indestructible forts that survive even the most epic battles of time and distance. I recently met with my brother-from-another-mother, of 23 years. Boy, it was like a favorite old song on cassette tape, humming along like no time had passed. This kind of friend, one who’d, without hesitation, face a charging rhino for you, and you them, makes you feel more than just garden-variety thankful. True friendship doesn’t count the hangouts, but the no-skip-a-beat reunions – that’s the magic that outruns the clock!

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Not So Private Thoughts, Uncategorized

Nihil hic deest

What you’ve been through didn’t stop you; it prepared you. That setback didn’t disqualify you; it was necessary to achieve your calling. Quit beating yourself up, thinking that you missed your chance. If only I performed better, didn’t make these mistakes, didn’t have all these shortcomings, that’s a woe-is-me mentality, an I am less than mentality, not a receiving mentality. Voices may whisper that you’re not enough. Know that you are not lacking. You’re a perfect fit. You have exactly what you need to fulfill your assignment. This is your moment.

I know that voices can tell you you’re a stranger to yourself but don’t turn away, accept and praise yourself for being you and accept that you are not lacking. Step into purpose and destiny greater than what you could have dreamed of. Give up fear, insecurity, addiction, and depression, and step up to what you were created to be. Let today be the day that you say I am not lacking, I am worthy, and valuable. I might be a stranger to myself, but I’m coming into joy, peace, strength, and victory.

You can be the one that breaks the cycle of defeat and starts the cycle of courage, favor, and faith. You may not feel qualified but accept that your assignment is more extraordinary than you can imagine. When you acknowledge that you are not lacking; step into your calling, there is a force that will break the yoke around your neck, and doors will open that no person can shut. A power to accomplish dreams that you never thought possible.

This is your time to shine. You are qualified to fulfill your purpose. You are valuable, worthy, you are favored, you are anointed.

Receive it today!

By Shaun Sima
https://chef-pocket.com/aboutme

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General Ramblings, Not So Private Thoughts, Social Commentary

Rock-Free Zones

In response to the recent spree of rock-related deaths.
https://www.usatoday.com/story/news/nation/2023/04/21/colorado-woman-killed-rock-thrown-windshield/11711507002/

Coming Soon to a City Near You: “Rock-Free Zones” for the Safety-Conscious. Rock-throwing deaths spark new fear.

Are you tired of living in fear of being hit by a rogue rock while walking down the street? Well, fear no more! The city is introducing “Rock-Free Zones” to keep the safety-conscious at ease. This new initiative comes after a series of rock-throwing deaths around the country.

Air guitaring and shredding are under scrutiny!

Air guitaring and shredding have long been popular among rock fans, but they may soon come under government scrutiny. Officials are concerned that these activities could lead to accidental rock throwing and want to ensure that people do them safely. Don’t worry; the city is developing safe “Rock-Free Zones” where air guitaring and shredding won’t pose a threat. In conclusion, prepare to rock out in safer locations. “Rock-Free Zones” are coming to a city near you, so you can walk the streets without fear of falling victim to accidental rock throwing. And with a little bit of practice, you can rock out responsibly!

For the record. I support the banning of rocks. They are not protected under the Constitution and should be outlawed. A crime that goes back to biblical times and has been the demise of countless victims. Government should act to stop the proliferation of crime.

Furthermore, I do not support rock or any violence of any type. Nor am I making light of any of the deaths caused by the criminals who utilized rocks or other weapons of war (see David and Goliath) for their unintended uses.

By Shaun Sima
https://chef-pocket.com/aboutme

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General Ramblings, Not So Private Thoughts, Social Commentary

The Emotional Toll Of Not Passing The Salt.

Remember those good old potluck dinners where people came together to share their signature dishes? Those days seem to be long gone. Now, it’s all about a frantic race to the convenience store for some potato chips and boxed wine and then retreating back to your lonely Fortnite world. It’s a sorry state of affairs when the high point of your week is a solo pizza night with your favorite delivery guy.

It’s almost as if we’re witnessing the digital dinner’s hostile takeover, and that spells doom for us all. Why bother cooking a meal and engaging in meaningful conversation when you can just order takeout, eat it alone, and scroll through Instagram instead? Because, you know, why bother with human connection when you have a bottomless well of cat videos and memes at your disposal?

Sitting down to eat with your family used to be a sacred ritual. But now, with convenience taking center stage, family dinners are quickly becoming relics of the past. And honestly, who has the time to chat with loved ones when they have a bunch of Snapchat streaks to maintain?

The demise of the family dinner is a tragedy of epic proportions. So, I challenge you (and your kids) to put down your phone, turn off the TV, and gather around the table with your loved ones. Who knows? You might actually enjoy their company. And if not, at least you’ll have someone to pass the salt to.

Unplug and enjoy dinner with your kids and your family. It’s what life is all about.

By Shaun Sima
https://chef-pocket.com/aboutme/

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Not So Private Thoughts

Holy Week: More than Just an Excuse to Eat Fish on Fridays

Holy cow, it’s that time of year again! Lent is upon us, folks, which means it’s time to give up something we love. But let’s be real, who actually gives up something easy like chocolate or alcohol anymore? It’s time to step up our game and give up something genuinely challenging, like social media. I mean, have you ever tried to go a day without scrolling through your feed? It’s tougher than trying to resist a freshly baked chocolate cake.

And don’t even get me started on the struggle to stick to our Lenten resolutions. We start off strong, ready to take on the world and give up all our vices. But then life happens, and suddenly we’re face to face with a plate of delicious homemade cupcakes. It’s like the universe is testing us, and we’re bound to fail.

But fear not, my friends. Holy Week is not just about eating fish on Fridays or going to church on Easter Sunday. It’s about the struggles and sacrifices we make during the weeks leading up to Easter. It’s about reminding ourselves of what’s essential, the sacrifices made for us, and the knowledge that our sins are paid for. So, as we approach the end of Lent and Holy Week, let’s remember that it’s not about being perfect. It’s about doing our best and recognizing when we fall short. Let’s also remember to be kind to ourselves and others. Whether you gave up chocolate, Instagram, or something else, let’s take a moment to reflect on the past forty days and the sacrifices we’ve made. And hey, if all else fails, there’s always next year’s Lenten season.

By Shaun Sima
Simul Iustus et Peccator. 
https://chef-pocket.com/aboutme/

P.S. I post for my edification as part of my dedication to jumping into the deep end of the internet brand pool. My posts are part raw life journal and part discovery of my voice.

P.P.S There isn’t very much satisfaction in getting the world to accept your viewpoint and praise you. If you only want to hear your opinion, talk to the mirror.

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